Loss Happens, Live Now!

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Loss is something that we will all experience at some point in our lives. As a child we are taught that losing things means we’re growing up, like losing a tooth to make room for grownup teeth or losing the training wheels on your bike signifying you're a big kid. But what happens when loss stops having a positive association and one must learn to cope and live without something that was a significant piece of their lives. For some these things can be materialistic, for others these things could be a pet, a family member, a partner or even an idol. Loss is a part of life and we all cope with it differently. As adults how can we work to shape our loss into something positive, even when there seems to be nothing positive about what we no longer have? How can we work through these loses and keep moving forward when there is nothing to motivate us? When in a grieving state we may answer these questions with the notion that there is nothing possible that can improve the way we feel, but there is in fact one thing we can do. We can change our way of thinking and stop waiting until later to make things happen that we can put into place now! Read that book! Go on that trip! Buy that dress! Tell that person how you feel! Loss is a natural part of life, and although it sucks to experience loss it is in indication that we need to let go of waiting for the perfect moment. We don't have control over when we lose everything in our lives, but we can control what we do with our time. And every moment we wait to do that thing we've been wanting to do or say that thing we've been wanting to say we're losing something else we can't get back and that's time. Every moment we spend overthinking, procrastinating and doubting ourselves we are contributing to our losses. Let's not let our losses define who we are. Let's use our loses to shape our lives and motivate us to engage everyday and take advantage of our opportunities. Loss is hard enough, don't continue to lose when you don't have to. Seek services if you feel you need help working through your losses.